how to measure affection?

I’m an Aries. So when I’m into something, I’m INTO IT.

When I’m into someone I have very little to no chill. I feel the whip lash of this often. Because I am also very easily disappointed by people. The pendulum swings. Can I change this about myself? Of course I want more balance in my life. Who doesn’t? Balance is healthy. But I also love the way I gush over people. The way I am affected. The way I fall for them. Like a kid running through a candy shop. So excited. It feels unnatural to control myself. Am I ……..a love bomber? I hope not. But maybe in my own way I am. My ex use to say to me, “One day you’re in love with me, and the next I feel like you hate me. And I’m always waiting for the other shoe to drop.”

I guess what I’m getting at is that I am an impulsive person. I want to share what I am feeling when I am feeling it. bam bam bam. But then I snatch it away when I am hurt. And I know that moment always comes. So do I start to measure my affection. Hold back? So as not to hurt others or myself really. It’s confusing.